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Sorry that this caused confusion.I’m a natural empath and I’m self/amateur practicing.
what I meant is someone which means one of yous did not want this known ,to keep secret of some sort.I might be wrong.
She did like you,perhaps love you,she did feel there is a soul connection between you and her, but there is something was keep changing i do not know what it is ,she did not like that,this is coming from you.
And a new job news came along,it was something for her to think to change the route .you know people especially women sometimes look for fuel to detour.I’m not sure why in her case also,may want to give you message that you need to make an effort the thing between you and her that is recognised or solid.
Hope this helpsHello rose123,
I’m sorry to keep bothering you about this issue but I need one more piece of clarification from what you advised me before. Is there a possibility someone told Jen (the lady in question), something about me or found out something about me that she doesn’t like? Or does she simply choose to focus her attention elsewhere because she’s trying to explore other options? Regardless, will I be okay if I move on and let her be? Thank you so much for this!
Well,I think this new job is an opportunity for her to move on and wants to learn some skills .
As I said she is frustrated,the changing status of situations,stability was not there.someone also did not want this relationship known.
I think deep down she knew this was not for her but carried on anyway.
Which is selfish,I think best way is to let her be
Good luckI’m sorry but I’m a little confused. Do you mean someone doesn’t want her to be friends with me and that deep down, she doesn’t really want to be friends with me either? So she carried on just out of pity? That doesn’t make sense to me after how we’ve known each other for over 2 years. She even told me she really liked me and appreciated my friendship the last time we talked. If I let her be, could she change her mind about me? Thank you again.
I don t know there is a new hope showed up;this mean either new joy of financially or someone new;she was frustrated of somewhat,emotionally frustrated
Well, she was waiting to hear back from a possible new job opportunity as she’s been off work for a while but she told me she wasn’t worried about it. She also told me there wasn’t anyone new in her life worth mentioning and we made plans to see each other before she cancelled them the next day. I haven’t heard from her since. I wonder if she’ll offer an explanation because I don’t think I deserve this treatment. I saw her at the parking lot a couple days ago and she seemed to look at it and then turn away. I was in my car so maybe she didn’t recognize me but I doubt it. I just hope to know what problem she has with me. Still, thank you so much for your feedback. I really appreciate it!
Is there a monetary issue involved?
None at all. I mean, I don’t owe her any money and neither does she owe me any money. It’s so strange to me.
Thank you for your thorough insight and feedback into my situation, MelindaR. I really appreciate you. While I still don’t think my comment via text was wrong and that she is the one in the wrong in our situation, I have begun the process of reclaiming my power and taking things as they are. I also have never forgotten that people aren’t things and don’t believe she has that in mind about me being a person. She has been upfront about not wanting a relationship with me besides just sex. She has been in control of our situation. She did reach out to me over a week ago only to ignore me again without explanation when I tried to see her. I believe she is playing a game with my emotions that I no longer want to take part in. I just want a straight forward situation with her, to know where I stand with her without childish games and poor communication. But I can only control my actions. Therefore, I will live my life without clinging to the outcome of my involvement with her. If she doesn’t contact me again, so be it. But I will no longer reach out to her. If she reaches out to me, I will be open-minded. Thanks again for your timely words, though.
There are some people who are reluctant to become involved with neighbors. It is similar to situations where people don’t want to become involved with co-workers. Often without even considering the prospects, they tend to focus on what would happen if things didn’t work out. If things didn’t work out well, they would be forced to see this person on a somewhat regular basis.
It could be that your neighbor had second thoughts about this situation. Don’t take it personally, she didn’t take the chance to get to know you. If you would be interested in going to events or possibly doing volunteer work in areas that you really enjoy, there is a good chance you might meet someone who would share your interests. If you are casual in your approach and work to build a friendship, then see where it might lead.
~ Best wishesThank you KathyN. I really appreciate your feedback. In regards to Bri, I wouldn’t take it personally if she replied to me saying she’s no longer interested in meeting me instead of not replying at all. Not replying at all makes it more awkward since I’m likely to bump into her as we’re neighbors. Still, thank you for your reply! Best wishes!
I’m not a psychic but I hope you get the resolution you deserve and soon. More importantly, I hope that you are 100% healed from such a serious injury. Best wishes.
Thank you for these helpful guidelines. I read them before but it’s good to remind myself of them.
Thanks again, Fiona for your guidance on this and I will take it to heart. Most appreciated!
Thank you so much, Fiona. I’m still confused, though. You previously mentioned that “I’m getting a psychic since of conflict, not with you, but in her own head. One part of her feels a connection and spark with you, while another side is fighting it. This explains here inconsistency. I sense see is still effected by romantic trauma, maybe sexual, from the past.” In that context, how can she be comfortable with herself if she has some form of trauma as you said? I’ve also respected her space and boundaries. As a matter of fact, though we’re next door neighbors, I rarely contact her. I try to wait for her to contact me. In that case, how is that pushing her away? I will do what I need to do to take charge in my life but I still feel she isn’t giving me a fair treatment. She contacted me for sex a few weeks ago and then she goes silent on me after I couldn’t see her due to work?
Thank you for your feedback and reading into my situation, Moe. However, it has changed since I posted about it. I had sex with her again and again, I had trouble performing. This time, that upset her. She would later text me that it would be best if I don’t contact her again. Still, less than a week later, she texts me again in the morning wanting to have “a quickie” with me before she had to travel to Montana. I was working so I couldn’t see her. I haven’t heard from her since and it she is back from her trip as well. I don’t get her intentions towards me and I wish I knew where I stand with her. I’d like to be in a relationship with me because but I’ll be with her any way I can as long as she wants to have something to do with me. But it’s frustrating…
It might be post-partum depression. You should talk to your doctor about it, perhaps even see a therapist. You might also find comfort and understanding in going to local groups that meet up, facing similar feelings. For instance, there is a group that meets at my local hospital of women dealing with post-partum depression. I have a friend who attends it and finds it helpful. Find out if such a group is available at your hospital or in your neighborhood. I hope you feel better soon.
Thank you so much Fiona for your feedback. It all makes perfect sense and I’ll follow your advice to a tee. It won’t be easy but I get it. Thank you and here’s to a Happy New Year to all of us!
I’m not intuitive but I’m big on reaching out in estranged relationships you want to fix. In that case, I think he may think you’re not ready to properly reconcile with him. It isn’t just about saying I’m sorry and moving on. It’s also about what you can do to come to a mutual understanding with him. It’s also about what you can do within yourself to better yourself. Ask yourself how things got to this point. In an ideal situation, he’d be ready to do the same thing. It’s important to know that this can be a lengthy process so hang in there and keep strong. It might be the toughest thing you’ve ever done but it’s always doable. Best of luck!
I hope the situation has resolved for you. If not, I believe the best thing you can do is to keep focused on what you can do for self improvement and how to best raise your kids given the situation. I also recommend reading books about reconciliation or making peace with heartbreak. One book I’ve been reading that I recommend is “I Thought We’d Never Speak Again” by Laura Davis. The important thing to remember in regards to reconciliation is that you might not fully reconcile with an estranged relationship but you can still reconcile your struggling feelings and be able to move on. That is definitely easier said than done and I’m struggling in that area myself but I hope you deal with struggles better.
