[jillyce17]

Also your gratitude and replies are super appreciated and very validating, thank you! 🙂 It helps me figure out where I’m on track!

[jillyce17]

Hey Melissa,

I know we’ve been messaging directly and Melinda added some very helpful stuff too, so if you feel at peace with that, I’m glad we could help!
If you need anything else, please let me know.

Jillyce

[jillyce17]

If she’s your twin flame, there will always be a piece of you that stays connected, because you are soul family. If you are truly happy, you’ll be content with the fact that she may not come back to you, because you know you’ll still be happy. I know you still long for her to change her mind, which means you aren’t at that place yet. That’s ok! It’s part of the journey.
The more you worry about influencing her, the more you’re getting in your own way. That’s a big part of the twin flame dynamic. Set her free. Like taking a bird out of its cage and letting it fly. You can’t control if it comes back, and that has to be ok.
If you simply can’t be at peace with that right now, you can try to confront her. Odds are, though, she will simply do or say something that hurts you and drives you further apart.
If she isn’t with you right now, there’s a reason. Accept there’s a reason. You don’t have to pretend you don’t love her. But embrace what feels peaceful and right. Chasing does NOT feel like that. It feels like crap.
I encourage you to look up things about twin flames online. It might bring more clarity to this situation.

[jillyce17]

That’s a really tough question and I completely understand the pain.
The trick is to let go of expectation. Understand she’s probably your twin flame, and with that comes the possibility you could be together someday.
BUT…you might also have a soulmate out there who could make you happier in this life. I’m not saying that for sure, though. I can’t see that part. Treat your relationship to her like it isn’t going to work out romantically, and shift your focus on to other things. If you can stay friends, perfect.
Then if a time comes where it would be good to be more than friends, you will be brought together and the universe will orchestrate itself to make that happen. You don’t have to sit on the sidelines holding your breath. Live life as if you don’t have a twin flame. Just a good friend. Shift your focus to things that are working. Things that make you happy.

With my own twin flame, I had to let go. Then they started dating other people and we stayed best friends. In the meantime, I realized how immature my twin flame still is by the way they treated those people. Right now I’m very glad we’re friends and not dating. It would be a nightmare.

[jillyce17]

Hey Riyasudheen,

I understand how you must feel. I went through a very intense relationship myself that the universe eventually revealed was a twin flame dynamic. It makes you feel like you’re going crazy. Like you love that person so much you’re almost obsessed.
I understand why you’d want to try a love spell, or bend over backwards to get this relationship to click the way you want. You can’t see anyone else coming close to the love you have for this person.

The thing about twin flames is this: they are in our lives first and foremost to teach us important things about ourselves. And to really learn the lesson, one must let go of trying to make the relationship work. I KNOW that’s not what you want to hear. It’s not what I wanted either. Let me explain.

Twin flames almost always have a runner (her) and a chaser (you). Sometimes you switch roles later in life as well. If you keep chasing, she will probably keep running. I’m not saying stop being her friend, but I advise you to accept that you can’t control her. You SHOULDN’T control her. We live in a world where we are given free agency over ourselves. You wouldn’t want anyone making you fall in love with them if you weren’t interested, right? She might have lessons to learn from this other person she’s with before she’s ready to connect with you. Or she might need to date other people for years. You might need the same thing in your own ways. There are no definite ‘yes/no’ answers for if you should be with someone, but there are probabilities.

Twin Flames teach us to accept the will of the universe while taking charge of our own lives in the ways we can, with positive energy. This lady you love: as great as she is, you must learn she does not define the meaning of your life or your happiness, nor you hers. If she never comes to you in this life, the universe, God, will provide you with another just as good, if you allow it. One who appreciates you. Or you might come together someday. Most Twin Flames eventually do, if they find self awareness. But you must learn to let go and be at peace. I promise you, even though it probably won’t provide the results you were wishing for in this moment, it very well could down the road. And you will feel so much better in the meantime. Believe that you deserve happiness, and you deserve to have a relationship that clicks into place the way it should. Let her find her own way because you love her, and you love yourself enough. If she comes back to you someday on her own, with peace and joy, you’ll know it was meant to be. But there are so many other gifts for you to find!!

Best wishes,
Jillyce

[jillyce17]

Hey Mely,

My heart goes out to you. I’m new at this, but I sat with your question and was able to reach what I felt was a spirit guide of your boyfriend’s. I’m going to say what feels right to say, and if it doesn’t resonate with you that’s fine.
What happened with his death was partially intentional and partially not. It was impulsive and he regretted it as it was happening. But his soul and his guides knew that he would be better equipped to learn the rest of his lessons from the other side.
You were sick for a reason. It was time for him to not be chased. Time for him to decide on his own.

Your boyfriend is one of your angels. He has energy he needs to recalibrate, but he is with you and hopes to be one of your guides in the future, when he’s ready. That felt like the most significant thing he wanted you to know. He wants you to forgive him and forgive yourself, so you can work together.
I asked if there was a sign he could give you right now, but it was impressed upon me that now isn’t the right time. In the future, though, perhaps when you’re ready?

He wants you to heal and move forward, and let your thoughts move to what’s next for you. Embrace life in the now, or he can’t be beneficial to you. And he really, really wants to be beneficial to you. Live life the way he couldn’t. He looks forward to seeing you do that. He will learn from it as much as you do. You are very loved.

Jillyce

[jillyce17]

Hi Evelin!
First and foremost, I suggest you get checked out by a health practitioner. I think feeling super tired can be normal at your age, which would definitely suck away your enthusiasm, but it would be good to check and make sure you’re healthy just in case. 🙂

When I feel into this, I sense that your body is communicating something important to you. You’re going through a shift and discarding who you were for an upgraded version of yourself. This can be taxing and takes a lot of looking inward so you can go outward with the right energy. Focus on what makes you feel lighter, more free, more you, a little bit at a time. If something feels off, think about the core reason, then shift your focus on what you can do that feels right instead. I’m not saying be reckless, just follow your inner guide with wisdom.

Don’t be afraid to let go of old ideas, practices, people and things that don’t resonate with you anymore. Just be easy and gentle with it. Open yourself up to what life is bringing you next, whatever that may be.

[jillyce17]

My advice is to feel out the situation without taking some big risk before you feel safe. But we all learn through trial and error.
Learning to trust your own judgement takes time and practice. Acknowledge advice and guidance, factor in your own feelings, then move forward in the way that seems right. Have the self confidence to know that even if you fail, you’ll be ok. It’ll be a learning experience regardless.
Sometimes my intuition has been more based in desire instead of following guidance. Sometimes not. You learn the difference as you go. 🙂

[jillyce17]

Sure thing! I wish you the best 🙂

[jillyce17]

Hey there 🙂
I can empathize with your situation and I’ve found myself in similar circumstances before. I’ve also been practicing honing my own intuition, so maybe I can help a little.
If a person is honest, they have nothing to hide. It’s understandable to feel a little annoyed when you are doubted/mistrusted, but connecting online presents a very legitimate concern for integrity that your companion should understand and try to alleviate. Otherwise, connection can’t progress. I would focus on this first.
The thing with empathetic connection is this: when you’re tapped into the universe, you feel love and empathy for everything and everyone, regardless of the situation.
I would recommend quieting your mind and clearing your energy. Ask your guides for help. Then ask specific questions about this friend to yourself, like “is this person offering the healthy connection I desire?” Try to remove your own opinions and be open to whatever comes your way in those moments. For me, a yes feels like a warm tingly heartburst, haha. A ‘no’ doesn’t feel bad. It feels like nothing.
This person might not have bad intentions, but perhaps there are aspects of themselves they are scared to reveal.
My intuition here tells me something is being hidden from you. It might not be a diabolical scheme: perhaps more rooted in insecurity instead. But follow your own intuition first.

[jillyce17]

Thanks Skyblue!

[jillyce17]

Haha yes! If you ever need someone to vent to, hit me up.

[jillyce17]

I’ve found with my own stuff that if it’s causing me anxiety, I need to step back and think about why. Sometimes I’m doing things to please people or prove myself, or sometimes I’m involved in something I used to enjoy but now I don’t. Sometimes I’m expecting things from other people when I should be focused on creating my own happiness. Stuff like that. Even when I know better, I catch myself doing all that stuff here and there.

[jillyce17]

Right. I get where you’re coming from. 🙂
I’m still sorting through some ego stuff myself. That’s probably a never ending thing, huh?
The only advice I can give and try to follow myself is to never do things out of fear or sheer obligation. I try to shift my focus to doing things because it makes me happy or satisfied to do them. If you can’t see the bright side of it enough to feel good, maybe it’s not worth doing. I think sometimes that’s all you need to hold that high dimension. Easier said than done though, ha.

[jillyce17]

Hey Latrease,
I feel like right now there is a foggy space between the two of you that needs time and a lot of communication to be resolved. Marriage doesn’t feel imminent to me.
I could always be wrong here, that’s just the vibes I’m getting. I would focus on having quality conversations with him and this will either strengthen your bond or at least give you a better idea as to where he’s at.

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