I’m getting that she can be a little selfish and scattered, but she doesn’t have ill intent. I do get a sense she’s frustrated with you. I’m not saying it’s right, but she doesn’t feel like you are doing what you need to do in life, you aren’t taking her advice. I’d think about that and if it fits, do something about it. Also, I would caution against giving too much power to ANYONE. I believe the only one that truly has the answers to your personal problems is YOU.