I’m getting a psychic sense that much of this will still be up to you. It feels like you’ve shut the door with your participation. What about doing some more things to help her through her healing? Ever considered that’s part of the reason she’s drinking is the imbalance in the relationship, including a lot of mediocrity. I’m not blaming you, but I’m getting that you’re not a total victim in this situation. Ever asked her why she feels like she needs to drink? What about helping her to create a life that’s more exciting and better than alcohol and crappy friends?
Also, why do I keep getting planes or mechanic work when I focus on you?