In a culture where the divorce rate is an average of 60 percent, we aren’t doing a great job at creating lasting and loving relationships. Maybe you are in a relationship crisis or feeling the effects of a stagnant relationship. Or maybe you just want to take the relationship area of your life to the next level – whether you are single or with someone. Creating the changes you want in a relationship often involves identifying what relationships mistakes are being made and taking steps to correct these mistakes.
After working with thousands of clients over the years with LifeLeap Institute, I’ve been able to identify a handful of mistakes that people consistently make in their relationships – mistakes that are often very damaging. Although some of these may seem basic, they are common and often go unnoticed until they are identified.
Let’s take a look at the frequent mistakes that are made and what can often be done to resolve these mistakes:
- Lack Of Priority: In a culture full of distractions such as social media, Google searches, and 500 channels on the TV, relationships often don’t get the attention they need to stay healthy. In order for anything to grow or maintain its healthiness, nourishment is required. Make an honest personal inventory of how much time and energy is being put into the relationship area of your life along with the other areas. Consider cutting out or scaling down the “time and energy consumers” that aren’t as important to you, diverting more attention to your relationship.
- Focus On Faults: People often say “we just drifted apart” or “we just fell out of love.” Relationships don’t usually just end; they fall apart because the work isn’t put into maintaining them. One of the most common culprits is the lack of proper focus. If you are consistently focused on what you don’t like about your partner, their mistakes, and the differences you have, you will create more distance between the two of you. Instead, shift your focus more towards what you have in common, the good times you’ve shared, what you like about them, and what you would like to create in the future with this person. Controlling your internal focus is a necessary responsibility if you care about having a loving and lasting relationship. If you can’t seem to control your focus no matter how hard you try, let me help you easily fix this: Life Mastery Program
- Lack Of Attention To Your Lover’s Needs: We are living in a “me, me, me” culture. For many of us, our values are centered on what we can get, what’s in it for us, and how everything will affect us as individuals. A healthy relationship is not just about receiving, it’s also about giving. Make sure you know what your partner wants, what makes them happy, and what needs they have – ask them occasionally. Make a conscious effort to put into the relationship, not just take.
- The Blame Game: Many of us do not like to take personal responsibility when we make mistakes. In the midst of a conflict, it’s often natural to blame the other person, even when we share some of the fault. Sure, it’s easier to blame the other person, but the wiser path is to look at your own faults and what changes we need to make for improvement. Get your attention of your lover‘s mistakes and focus on what you’ve done and what you need to do. Be the change you want to see in the world!
- Not Keeping It Fresh: It’s easy to get into a habit of doing the same old things, in the same way, day after day. But routine in a relationship can often lead to stagnation. Relationships thrive when there is more excitement, spontaneity, adventure, and mysteriousness. Ask yourself if you have allowed things to become too much of a routine. If so, use your creativity to come up with new things to do – places to go, conversations to have, new people/groups to meet, new bedroom activities, etc. If you are stumped for new ideas, go to the bookstore or get online to get some inspiration. Making this simple change in a relationship can mean all of the difference.
Although here we have identified some of the most common mistakes, it can be tricky to specifically identify what is causing the imbalance in a relationship, or more importantly, what needs to be done to create the desired changes. One thing to be aware of – if there is ongoing struggle in a relationship, there is a reason for this and there is also a solution.
My Psychic Counseling service helps clients at identifying what is occurring on a deeper level within a relationship and what can be done to get the relationship moving in a better direction. If you need help, don’t hesitate to book a session with me: Psychic Counseling