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@Kathy N wrote:

Hope,
It is good to see you back in the forums! Glad things are going better for you! As for what is in store for you, just go about your life and do things that make you feel confident and happy. If you are happy within yourself, that positive energy will radiate to others. This could bring some very positive results in attracting someone with whom you could be compatible.

For now, just be happy and don’t worry about what the future might bring! If you are enjoying life things should start to fall into place.

Take care!
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Thank you very Kathy 🙂 I will just go with the flow and hope I attract the right guy someday . I lack a bit of confidence when it comes to romance .Just need to be happy with my life.

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Hi Kathy , hope you are doing well .It’s been a while since I posted here .. My health issue is solved and I’m doing great .. Things are going well at work too . However I’m not doing so well emotionally as I would have liked .I’m still single and just going on with my life. Anything you pick up on me right now and things to look forward in the near future ? Thank you .

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Hi Kathy,
I have been able to have the courage to go out alone during my lunch break again !! I went out twice this week and the feeling that I’m single is gone 🙂 I felt completely comfortable
going out and about.I saw many women and men walking alone and it
was so normal.You were right.Nobody cares or knows about my single status
if I’m out and about by myself ;)Taking this break helps me let go of my stress
and gain more confidence. I will probably go out at least
twice a week now. However I have other worries which is a health issue
which has come up.I need to solve it in the coming weeks.
Hope everything goes well and hope to appreciate my life more as it is.

Thanks so much for always encouraging me and your kind words.

Have a nice week-end !

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Hi Kathy, hope you are fine ? I wanted to say that I am feeling
much better. The feelings of despair because I’m single
are slowly leaving my mind.I haven’t been having my daily walks though.
I mean,in recent weeks , whenever I wanted to go out for lunch,
I ended up having co-workers accompany me. I haven’t been alone and
this makes me really forget about my single status.It’s a good thing.
I just want to focus on my happiness now rather than feeling miserable
about something I don’t have …Don’t want to be uncomfortable
or step out of my comfort zone that much.It had always felt like I
was looking for the impossible and disapppoing myself.
I don’t know if my opinion will change about this in the future..
For now it feels right to just focus on myself .

Thanks as always for your advice.

Have a nice week-end and take care 🙂

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Thanks Kathy . I just want to relax and figure my life out .Romance/love is not something I want to think about for a while. I don’t want to have someone strike up a conversation with me etc because I’m way too defensive currently.. I need time for myself as I’m not well emotionally.Hoping for better times . Take care and enjoy Spring time you too .

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Hi KathyN,you are right, time for myself is probably what I need right now.I just don’t want to feel the pressure of having to meet someone or having to go out of my way to make that happen. However I am letting go of all fears that I have about going out alone during my break .I love doing that and will continue doing so not caring about what others might think. I just don’t want guys to notice me.I kind of have had enough. I just want to have a nice and peaceful time during my break. I don’t have any trip planned and haven’t travelled by air in a while…Thank you 🙂

Take care 🙂

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Hi Kathy , I really don’t want people to think that I’m single when I go take a walk . I enjoy being out in nature but this reason is holding me back . I don’t know why I think like that ,lol. I should work on myself and be ok to go out during my breaks not caring about what others might think.

Right now , I am not really open to meeting new people . I just want to have some alone time, feel good by myself and not care about the rest of the world. Trying to meet new people seems too desperate to me and I just want to feel like my life is as normal as everyone’s else 🙂 I really don’t want to make any effort at all to meet someone and change my routine in any way. I don’t know why I feel this way.

Take care you too . I’ll let you know how it goes.

@Kathy N wrote:

Hope,
Many people take walks during their break at work. The majority of people who you might encounter will not know if you are single, just as you do not know the status of others. Don’t let that hold you back– If you enjoy getting out and walking, then you should go ahead with it.

Regardless, if you can just get out and do something different this should open some opportunities to meet new people. You have mentioned that you don’t have a lot of time, but even a slight change in routine could result in new possibilities.

Again, you could meet someone when you least likely expect it!

Take care!
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Hi KathyN , Happy Easter !! It’s been a while since I haven’t posted in the forum ? Hope you are fine ? I have stopped my daily walks because it made remember about my single status and it wasn’t a good feeling. I will start them again when I feel much better and not bothered about it at all. Do you have any insight / advice for me please ? Thanks.

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@Kathy N wrote:

Hope,

Your co-worker obviously admires your taste in clothes and your work ethic. However, I sense a bit of jealousy. She somehow feels that by trying to emulate you she will succeed in the workplace. This constant effort to be in competition with you would certainly make you feel uncomfortable. You are just there doing your job and you want to learn new things and enjoy this aspect of it. By nature you are not competitive.

You might not want to pay much attention to her. This might be difficult, but if you can just keep your conversations work related she will most likely realize that she is not making an impression on you. Her intentions will come to surface in time. People who talk about others behind their backs are recognized for doing just that! Supervisors are normally aware of this and these things might be taken into consideration when promotions are considered.

Just keep taking your daily walks and keep smiling!
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Thanks Kathy , I am doing my best to ignore her and do what I usually do at work . I am just being professional with her although her attitude irritaes me a bit. I still go for my daily walks and try to have a good time 🙂 Nothing has happened yet .

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@Kathy N wrote:

Hope,
You knew what you wanted to do, but you were just too shy to do it! You already have an idea of how to practice making eye contact. Please don’t be so hard on yourself! I do sense that because you were not making eye contact with the guy in question, that the gesture of shaking his head might have been in response to someone else motioning him in the surrounding area.

If he wanted to make eye contact with you and say hello, the opportunity will most likely present itself again. He most likely didn’t think anything of it other than to think that perhaps you had something on your mind, or were in a hurry, etc.
There is always time to try again!
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Hi Kathy, nothing happened yet . I am confident though that when the time is right ,I will be able to make eye contact with the one 🙂

I’d like to ask a question not related to my love life please ? I’d like some insight regarding a female co-worker . She is so competitive with me in terms of clothes . It seems to me she wants to look better than me daily or look as good as I do . I’m just cordial with her because I don’t really appreciate her as a person . She talks to much about others behind their back and makes fun of them . I would like to know why she has to be in competition with me about looking good and getting along with others at work. Thanks.

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@Kathy N wrote:

Hope,
Just go outside during your lunch break, if that is when you are likely to see these professional guys. Take a walk, enjoy it and also enjoy smiling and saying hello to people that you come to recognize. It may take a little while, but friendships often develop between people who meet this way.

Please keep us posted as to how all of this is working out!
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Hi Kathy N, you are going to be disappointed in me ,I’m afraid ..Sorry . Today as I was out during my lunch break, a guy wearing a blueshirt was coming from the opposite direction.He wouldn’t stop looking at me until it was time for him to enter the entrance to the buidling (where he works).He kept looking at me I think expecting me to make eye contact. But I don’t know why I didn’t .lol.I think I noticed him shaking his head in amazement why I couldn’t make eye contact …I seriously need to make some affirmations and visualize making eye contact with guys to have some guts …

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@Kathy N wrote:

Hope,
I think you have the right idea–just trust your intuition on these matters– Do you happen to know what type of businesses operate in this neighboring building? Is is all part of one large company or several smaller organizations? I have a feeling that these are professional people. These guys most likely find you attractive and that is why they look at you! Please don’t be afraid to smile back!
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Hi , I know these are most likely IT/offshore companies. I think there are several organizations.You are right they are professional people. Will start my making an effort to make eye contact , then maybe smile too 🙂

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@Kathy N wrote:

Hope,
I sense that this mystery man noticed you last summer. There was something that he liked about you, but he knew nothing about your situation, i.e.; if you are married, in a relationship, etc. Guys can be shy too! If you already know approximately when he will be outside the building each day there is no harm in looking for him again. If someone looks at you, hold your head high and smile. It is perfectly acceptable to say hello to professional business associates while they are conversing outside of the building.

I have a good feeling about this situation. If things do not materialize with your mystery man, then perhaps it will be with another gentleman you may meet in this environment. Just don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone in this manner. Most guys will want to get to know a little bit about a lady before they ask her out.

I think this is a worthwhile project for the New Year!

Take care!
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I get very uncomfortable when guys stare at me . Making eye contact seems the hardest thing to do then. But I will make a real effort if my intuition tells me to . I leave it to the universe to help me figure this mystery man out 🙂
Thanks & take care you too 🙂

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@Kathy N wrote:

Hope,

Although the future is not set in stone, I feel that there is better than an 80% chance that you will see this guy again! You already know that he works in a building adjacent to where you work. Although the outcome is not clear, I sense that there was something about you that he liked when your paths first crossed last summer. There is no harm in saying hello to someone that you recognize. It may take a few times of exchanging greetings before a conversation might take place.

He might likely be in the same place at the same time during the work day. If you can just find this out without being obvious, then you can ensure that you will see him again. Just don’t put too much hope into a possible friendship until you know more about his situation.

Please keep in touch and let us know how this materializes. May this be a very good year for you!
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Thanks Kathy N , I don’t have much hope about this . If he liked me back then he would have made a move or something.If I happen to make eye contact with him again and he smiles at me , this time maybe I will too . My problem is when I walk next to where he usually hangs out on my way or back to work, most of the time there has to be a guy standing there. Whoever they are , they stare at me . I avoid eye contact as it’s weird and awkward for me to do that . I’m just shy. Wished I had the guts. I will let you know if anything happens when I go back to work next week !
Thanks a lot & Happy New Year !

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Hi Kathy N , I’m not sure if that guy is a love interest or anything . I’m just curious and would love to know if you pick up anything on him please ? He must be more than 5′ 6″ and is fair. He works in the building opposite to my work place . I first saw him last year in August I think. Our eyes locked for a few seconds. He even smiled at me but I gave him the “why are you staring at me ?” look lol . I had forgotten about him though. Today I was in the car and saw him standing by the road and talking to someone else . I remembered him and I think he looks kind of cute. I usually avoid looking at the guys standing in the road on my way back/to work even if they stare at me . I pretend not to notice. I’m a little sad I didn’t smile back at him last year and that our paths didn’t cross again ..Will I see him again please ? Thanks.

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