There is someone else in the background. Although there is an attraction, he isn’t taking things with you seriously right now. Why? Because he has a lot going on in his life right now and isn’t in an emotional position to take things further. I also believe, for you, if you got closer too soon, you would find him much less appealing. The best chance you have of getting to know him better is to be patient and let him make the first move. Even then, he may pull back a few times before getting seriously close. As I focus on him more, I get that he loves to be in control but not in a bad way. Thus you really have no choice buy to let him advance things when he is ready.