I would say it is something to consider. I have had several family member die and born on the same exact day. I would look into numerology. It will hopefully give you some of the answers you are looking for.
On a different note, i would look closely at yourself as far as playing the victim role in life. I get a psychic sense that your boundaries are way to open. People have a tendency to dump their pain on you, to the point of you being taken advantage of emotionally. Watch out for energy vampires.