Relationship Decisions - 5 Proven Steps To Getting Results
As a professional psychic, so many clients I encounter are facing tough decisions in the intimate relationship area of their lives. For many people, something has to be done because the pain of indecision is so overwhelming, so life-draining. A relationship decision needs to be made.
So often I am asked if a client should stay in a relationship or leave, what steps (if any) should be taken to improve a relationship, or for help with another relationship-defining issue.
The bottom line - relationships can be confusing and knowing what to do is not always easy and simple.
On top of this, decisions we make when times are challenging are often choices that will determine the fate of our relationships. Choices can help create the relationship we've always dreamed about, or be the beginning of a downward spiral. They can also open doors we never knew existed.
To have the loving and lasting relationships we all deserve, the decisions we make along the way need to be taken quite seriously. They must be carefully examined and thought through. Challenging decisions need to be acted upon - not procrastinated - no matter how difficult it may be at times.
The Secret 5 Step Action Plan To Making Relationship Decisions
Being mentally and emotionally scattered is not a good place to be when you have to make a serious decision, especially a choice which could impact the rest of your life. Use this proven formula to get the relationship area of your life moving forward:
Make An Honest Assessment - Before you decide what to do, first you have to be truthful about where you are in your relationship. Is your love interest at a distance and stringing you along? Are you happy with your intimate partner but you just need to get over a communication block?
Get a solid idea in your mind of your unique circumstance. This can be tough because it involves you really digging deep inside and looking at how you really feel and what you really think. This can be painful, but it's necessary if you want to improve. It may be good to discuss this with a good friend or maybe a counselor, but make sure to be your own authority in the end.
Research And Examine Your Options - Once you are honest about your relationship predicament, next you need to contemplate the different choices in front of you and where those different choices will lead you. This could involve talking to a relationship therapist or maybe even a lawyer.
Many of my Intuitive Counseling clients contact me at this point in the decision making process. At first, I psychically examine the different factors, such as the influences, motivations and intentions of all the people involved. I look especially at the the hidden details which are often impossible to see without psychic perception. Then I psychically seek out solutions. Even in the toughest situations, there are usually solutions. You can see the details of my service if you are curious how this works.
Make A Decision And Get Prepared - If you need to make a decision and you stay in limbo too long, this can rob you of your life force. There comes a time when something needs to be done right away, using the best of your ability and information available to you. You put all the information you have together and weigh out your options. Then you decide. If you stall making a decision for too long, in all reality, you are still making a decision (although it may not be the best choice).
Once you decide the path you will take, make the necessary preparations. If you need to get out of an unhealthy relationship, you may first need to build a better support group of friends and activities before you make that final leap. Otherwise you could just be setting yourself up to fail. If you decide to see a counselor to work things out, start asking your friends for references. Make a list of the things you want to accomplish, etc.
Take Action ASAP - This can be the toughest part of the formula, but you can make it easier for yourself by getting as prepared as possible (as suggested in the last step). Preparation makes change easier and less painful. You may have to "sell yourself" on taking action. For example, ask yourself what will happen if you don't take the steps you need to take. If you tend to procrastinate, ask yourself how much longer you are going to put this off, what you are accomplishing by stalling, and what you are missing out on by not moving forward.
If you simply can't find the strength to do what you know you need to do, don't give up. Instead, shift your focus towards building up your inner power and awareness. There are always concrete actions you can take so you can eventually have the strength to follow through on decisions you make. I help clients get "unstuck" like this frequently. It always amazes me how blinded most people are to the powerful potential they have within themselves, the potential to create healthier and more loving relationships.
Examine Outcome And Make Adjustments - Sometimes when a decision has been made in the relationship area of your life and things are moving forward, life may unfold and improve as you had expected. Or, it may not have worked out so easily. Once you make a decision and take action, you need to periodically check if your path is working. Are you getting the results you want? If not, it may be time to go back to the drawing board. You may need to create a whole new path or simply change a couple things. It may be time to get more prepared and take the action you took before with more persistence.
This is the "follow up" stage of making healthy decisions. When you set a ship off to sail, you will have to persistently adjust the rudder to keep the ship on course. This basic formula applies to a new course charted in the relationship area of your life. Don't spoil the whole decision by failing to take the necessary follow up actions.
I encourage you to use this formula to make any needed decision in the relationship area of your life. It's not a cookie cutter approach that will work for every relationship challenge, but it will help when you are making many important decisions.
Sometimes, relationships can be so complex that the only thing we can decide is to be more accepting of our situation and/or our intimate partner. But this is still better than staying in the realm of indecision. But usually, with some creativity and a little bit of work, there is something that can be done. Taking that next step may seem impossible. You may need some help in making relationship decisions. But with some persistence and by taking advantage of what's available to you, it can be done.