So what are your new goals for 2019? How are you doing with following through with these goals?
Maybe you want to exercise more and get into better physical shape? Maybe you want to quit smoking or start eating better? Maybe you want to increase your income, so you have more personal freedom? What about getting the bikini body that you really want to have by summer?
Unfortunately, if you set any goals for the New Year, it’s likely you have already abandoned what you set out to accomplish.
According to statistics, 27% of us give up on our goals within the first week. After 2 weeks, over 30% of us quit. And when the first month mark comes around, only half of us are still sticking with our plans. And from there, the percentage of us who succeed at our goals keeps dropping.
We all know what happens when we set goals for ourselves and fail miserably: we end up worse off than we were before.
When we don’t accomplish our goals, we let ourselves down. We have confirmed – deep down inside – that we just don’t have what it takes to follow through. We have proven that our promises to ourselves don’t mean anything. Of course, this is destructive. It hurts!
So, why the heck is it so difficult to stick to the goals we set for ourselves? And more importantly, how can we improve ourselves, so we can finally follow through on the commitments we make?
Well, I’ve got some great news. When it comes to accomplishing your goals, here are 3 strategies I’ve found very helpful, and so have many other people:
1. Replace Instead Of Remove
This is a powerful approach to accomplishing your goals. For example, maybe this year you made a commitment to end a toxic romantic relationship. Maybe it’s because you aren’t being met half way or maybe because you just aren’t happy. So you “make the call” and end the romance. It feels good at first. You really took that big step to improve your life.
Days go by. Weeks go by. You start feeling empty. No longer feeling strong and excited about the future. The emptiness lingers. It won’t go away. But why? This is the space where the past romance once existed.
So, what usually happens in this type of scenario? The obvious of course! We do the most logical thing and fill the empty hole with the one thing that seems to fit – the toxic relationship. Even if it was toxic, it’s still seems better than having that big empty hole, right?
Or for other goals, maybe there are other things we use to fill the empty hole – cigarettes, sugary foods, watching too much TV, or something else which is destructive but “comfortable.”
When you set a new goal in your life, instead of “stopping something” and leaving yourself with a big empty hole inside, “replace” this hole with something else, preferably something better.
If you are trying to end a toxic relationship, get out and put yourself in environments with healthier, more positive people. If you are trying to get away from junk food, get a membership at a gym and get obsessive about exercising.
Replacing an issue (instead of just removing it) may not always work perfectly when you are trying to make a big change in your life, but it’s better than not doing anything to fill that empty hole that’s left when you just “quit” something.
In fact, sometimes it’s necessary to start the “replacing” before you even think about making a change. For example, if you want to quit smoking, lots of exercise at the gym for a while can get you ready for that big change.
And it’s likely you may not even have to “quit” smoking – it just starts to fade away as it becomes more undesirable over a period of time. And one day, you notice cigarettes just aren’t a part of your life anymore.
So when it comes to accomplishing your goals, try replacing what you are trying to get away from instead of just quitting that thing, behavior, person, etc.
2. Instead Of Sabotaging You, Use Your Emotions To Empower You
This is probably where most people fail miserably. Say for example, you set out a goal to start that home business you always dreamed about. You have a great idea and you get so excited about finally creating a new life for yourself. You start planning and maybe take some of the first steps.
But then it happens…
The doubt kicks in. Your confidence just isn’t there. Or maybe it’s fear of failure. Or maybe you start seeing the hard work ahead, and you get overwhelmed, or you start to get impatient. So, the goal fizzles out and you stop taking action. Your dream has been stopped dead in its tracks.
For most people, this occurs due to a lack of emotional control. It’s easy to be positive when everything is going smoothly or takes little effort. But when challenges show up, this is the true test.
Since the beginning of time, many great things, dreams, goals, and ideas have died due to lack of emotional control.
How many times have you let your emotional reactions stop you from doing something you wanted or needed to do in life?
Rather than letting your emotions control you, rather than letting your emotions limit you, do whatever is necessary to get control over your emotions. You have a choice – your emotions will control you, or you can control them. And yes, you can turn doubt into confidence. You can turn being overwhelmed into being relaxed and focused.
There are specific methods successful people use to control emotions, such as visualizations and other methods. There is nothing stopping you from using these same techniques in your own life. When you have an unproductive emotional reaction when faced with a challenge, it’s about changing your emotional state to something more empowering.
So much of what we accomplish (or don’t accomplish) in life is a result of our emotional states, so immediately find a way to get control over yourself in this way.
3. Use Your Intuition As A Compass
When you set out to accomplish a goal, especially a major life-changing goal, things may go smoothly for a while. But in all likeliness, at some point you will likely encounter an obstacle.
Maybe you want to get into better physical shape, but then you realize the monthly fees for the gym are costing you too much. Or maybe you want to create a new romantic relationship in your life, but you can’t seem to meet anyone who even comes close to what you desire.
When faced with these kinds of obstacles, many of us just give up and throw away the goal that was once so important. We hit a brick wall, and instead of figuring out a way to get around it, we just quit.
I get it. Some challenges can be tough to work through. It may seem like there just isn’t a solution. But at these times, your own intuition can be a valuable tool for getting through the most impossible-seeming obstacles.
Rather than relying on reasoning and logic, intuition allows you to tap into a deeper spiritual consciousness, a powerful spiritual intelligence which has no limits. It’s when you tap into this greater intelligence, that you are able to discover solutions for the stubborn obstacles you face.
“The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it Intuition or what you will, the solution comes to you and you don’t know how or why.”
– Albert Einstein
Theoretical Physicist – Widely acknowledged as one of the smartest human beings, ever, in the history of the Earth.
Inventors, business moguls, and great leaders use intuition every day to make things happen. And this ability is available to you, whether you realize it or not. In fact, extensive research has been completed regarding intuition, including multiple studies from several universities and studies from the US Armed Forces.
There is a huge body of evidence which proves that intuition, or psychic ability, is an innate human ability that we all possess.
This ability can be easily developed. It just takes a little time and practice. We offer training here, and there are other places where you can learn to sharpen and use intuitive ability.
I can tell you from personal experience, intuition is a skill which will save you from a lot of suffering and wasted time in your life. It’s a powerful tool you can use to discover solutions, when nothing else seems to work – so develop it and use it.