Dan. If you both aren’t happy. Why don’t you sit down and talk about who is going to leave and when? Once that has been decided. Make a list of what needs to be done in order to for her or you to move out. For example the list would include things like, how much money needs to be saved by the person who is moving out, what items are they taking, the move-out date etc. The last thing you want to do is become helpless to the whims of someone else. If she is not serious and just saying she’s going to leave when you all are arguing, that’s not good enough. Is there something stopping you from making the move? Get the ball back, Dan!