A few months ago I received a message in church to try for a second baby. My 1st is 3 1/2, and my husband and I hadn’t had sex since she was conceived. We tried, and it proved challenging to enjoy myself. In the meantime I was having regular dreams about someone from my past that had me waking up longing for him. About a month ago, I met him for lunch, and things progressed. We have such a strong chemistry, and I may be in love with him…at least infatuated. We hooked up again last week while I may have been fertile, and now I’m having signs of conception. Part of me is afraid of destroying my family, the other part thinks maybe this is needed to get out of my passionless marriage. Please advise.