Dear Lettyms: Your bewilderment is felt. Your passion for him was great. His fear of commitment made him turn away. As strange as it may be, your commitment to him scared him. You did nothing wrong. It is he who has security and commitment issues. You continue to yearn for him, and he withdraws even more. He enjoyed the intimacy you shared yet creating a home was what he feared.
He thinks of you and then lets go of the idea of creating a long-term relationship. The probability of his permanent return is very low.