Kitty,
I am a student of the Life Mastery Program and I’m a bit new at giving advice, but this is what I see happening–I think you have already answered a large part of your question. You have been seeing this man for a couple of months and are starting to be aware of some issues which would not be acceptable for the long term. Since he is not being open with you about his change in behavior, it seems that he has some things going on in his life that he is not ready to share with you.
It is important to remember that the future is not set in stone. You really like him and want to give this relationship a chance. You might want to try for another couple of months to see what is happening. If there is not a positive change in his behavior, I would not let this go beyond an additional 4 months. Presently, I do not feel that he has given the future much thought. I sense that he cares about you, but there are other issues that are consuming his attention.
Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing!
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