Relationship question

[Kathy N]

Christopher,
A lot will depend on what you do to prepare for your future. You should do well with school, as you have in the past. Just don't allow yourself to worry too much. It would help you tremendously to begin work on your resume. You could also start looking into a plan for what your first step in your search for employment will be.

Even though the economy is tight, you could try to do some type of work during the summer. This could help you to have a bit more spending money for things that you need during the school year. It would also help to give you a sense of accomplishment.

If you can take time to start planning for your future, you will start to sense the direction that you want to take. Everything requires a lot of hard work and determination. Since you want to go into the music business, now is the time to start checking into companies and agencies. This will make your employment search much easier for when you graduate.

Take care!

[christopherj]

Hey Kathy,
I was just if you might have any insight for my life in general, what my future my hold for me. I know that futures are not set in stone but if you might anything you might be able to share, I would really appreciate it. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
-Chris

[Kathy N]

Christopher,

I sense that a lot will depend on what you have been doing this summer to prepare for your future. What contacts have you made? You are the most important participant in your future. You need to begin establishing contacts now in order to secure the type of employment that you desire.

You should do well in your last year of school. However, your focus on what you plan to do immediately following graduation is very important!

Take care!

[christopherj]

Hi Kathy,
How are you doing? So, I've finally started what is supposed to be my last year in college, excited while at the same time trying my best to just rid myself of all unnecessary stress and worry. Also, for some reason though I have been trying my best to just stay positive and optimistic and keep the faith going, my mind at times has felt to be in a weird place. I don't know if it's having to do with finding a job, which I have been working on, though I've yet to have any luck in that area, or relationship stuff, my classes, or just life in general. Maybe it's me needing to just breath or just really just have faith that everything will be okay.

I did have an incident though with a girl I met a few days ago, who just started at school as a fellow music major. I was attracted to her, feeling that there was something there but it just ended up just being very one sided on my part. I did though end up not telling her that I was interested in her because I didn't want to lose the friendship that we had. I honestly feel that maybe I should just not do anything because I feel that I can't really seem to trust the feelings that have because I just feel like every time I have felt an attraction towards someone, it's always ended up being just me with the attraction and not the other person. But maybe, like you said, the person I will meet will show that attraction so I won't have to question whether or not she likes me.

In any case, thank you for your continued help and support, I really appreciate it. I'd say that smart thing I guess should just be to try and just focus on school, hard as that may be at times, and just not worry about that other stuff. It just feels though as I get older I seem to think about it more and more. Anyways, thank you again.

[christopherj]

The girl in question that I mentioned, her name is Marilyn (1/7/1992)

[Kathy N]

Christopher,
It seems that you have a handle on what you need to be doing for this school year. You should do well with your classes, just try not to worry about it. You know what you need to do in order to do well with your assignments.

It is important that you start networking now in order to get the kind of job that you want following graduation. It might help if you could talk with some friends who have already graduated. Where are they working now? How did they go about their job search, etc.? It is time to start putting together your resume.

As for Marilyn, she is just getting into her routine at school. She might not even be thinking about what guys she could go out with. You don't need to rush into anything. If she talks to you freqently, then you will notice if there is a change in her actions.

Just try to enjoy your last year at school. At the same time be getting ready for what comes after graduation!

Take care!

[christopherj]

Hi Kathy,
So as usual, I’ve been stressing out with this semester and at times not sure about where things are headed, but I’ve been trying my best to stay strong and keep the faith going. Things have been kind of up and down though in terms of my classes and hoping I past the tests and get through them with a good grade. Today though, I lost my laptop and haven’t been able to find it. I think someone may have stolen it but I’m not sure, I retraced my steps but it didn’t help me because I still couldn’t find them. I just really hope and pray that it turns up because I really don’t want to have to buy another when we are already tight with money. I was also hoping that I wouldn’t have to go a replace my laptop since I was hoping there could be money used towards other things, even maybe and xbox 360 that I’ve always wanted and could possibly get for my birthday or Christmas but after this, I don’t think so. This has just been something that I really did not need right now with how much I need to be studying for my classes and passing my tests. Anyways, I just hope that everything will turn around soon cause I could really use it. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
-Chris

[Kathy N]

Christopher,
Have you asked at your school's administrative office if anyone has turned in a lost laptop? Is there a place where you could post information about your lost laptop and offer a small reward? A small reward could be incentive for someone to return it with no questions asked.

You might do well not to plan to make any purchases that you don't absolutely need. If you are able to recover your laptop and it does not have to be replaced, you might want to save the money you planned to spend on the other things. I know this seems hard, but planning and saving for your future is really more important.

If you focus on school, your assignments, giving it all of your positive energy, you should do well. This is your last year of college and it is very important to focus on what you will be doing immediately after graduation.

Take care!

[christopherj]

Hi,
So last week I had my birthday and turned 25 and yesterday two of my friends took me out for dinner and a movie which was really great, it felt good to finally go out and celebrate my birthday with all the stress that's been going on with school. I'm so close to finally finishing school, I just can't wait, with this fall semester just about over in a few more weeks, I will be off to my last semester in the spring, it's so close to graduation, I can just taste. I just pray I can do what needs to be done to make it.
Anyways, I came across my Shannon (2/8/87) on facebook cause I was randomly thinking about her and it had been ages since I had ever talked to her or seen her and I noticed she had found a new guy and was no longer with the last guy and had been really treating her badly. But I also noticed that she now had a baby boy which really surprised me. The last time I had seen her was in 2007 and maybe the last time i ever talked to her was in 2008. It was just so crazy how fast things have changed from then till now. I just hope that she is doing well and I just hope that the guy she's with is treating her well.
Then, I was wondering about something with this girl that I've met named Kathryn (7/24/85) who goes to my school. We've been talking for little while and even talked about her coming out during the winter break to come hang out with me. I'm really trying to play it safe and I just hope that I haven't ever said anything to mess things up, cause the last thing I want to do is be too forward and mess up my friendship with her. Anyways, if you have any thoughts into this, I'd really appreciate it, thank you.
-Chris

[Kathy N]

Christopher,
A belated very happy birthday to you! You will soon be finished with school-- Now is the time to be getting your resume ready (if you haven't already) and to be exploring the job market for when you can start submitting your resume.

As for Kathryn, why don't you wait to see what happens? If she decides to come out to hang out during winter break that will be a sign that she enjoys spending time with you. You might be able to tell by her actions if you should pursue this further.

Best wishes,