please help me to take correct decision

[jez]

Dear Candice,

As you predict right about me, I wish to get some more guidance at present situation , past 6 months everything was ok, I thought he changed, and I tried to wait and see, but now again the worst stage going on, I would like to get some advice from you regarding my present stage, and you please help me by advising the job or business I have to do for the livelihood for me and babies.

your advice will be highly appreciated, because there is not much places I can go and hide or stay long time, so if I get the idea of which area of carrier suits me, I can work on that and find some success very soon for my kids and for my life , situation is extremely bad, our country there is no trust worthy family shelter also not there.

jez

[Kathy N]

Jez,
I am a student of the Life Mastery Program. I am still fairly new at giving advice but I want to do my best to help you. I have read your previous posts, and I do agree with the advice that you have previously been given. As far as things stand right now I see less than a 10% chance that your husband will ever change. You need to make plans now to go with your daughters to your family, perhaps your parents. You should stay with them until you are financially secure enough to find new living quarters for your daughters and yourself.

It is important that you consult with a lawyer to draw up arrangements for a separation from your husband. During this appointment you will have the opportunity to learn what financial obligations your husband will have to your daughters. Also what arrangements should be made to allow him to visit the girls.

I have a feeling that you will find a job that you will be comfortable with. You have the potential to secure employment that will be meaningful to you, but in the interim you need to focus on something that will provide the financial security that you need right now.

So you must now take this brave first step--

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing--

Take care!

[jez]

hi

thank you for your reply with good effort, but may be my problems beyond what you can expect, , "hiding "when I tell that makes real hiding of me and my kids from him, because I fear he will try best to torture me even by kidnapping and torturing my kids.I have to move without any hind or clue. he is very alert

hope is there any one could give some what correct way .... that will be a saving rope from the deep whirlpool in my life..


thanks,
jez

[Candice Kennedy]

Jez:

What are your options regarding where you and your daughters can go?

[jez]

hi candice,

thank you so much for your reply.. really speaking I don't know, I wish to go my home, but he will trace and the torture also I doubt I can bear with my present stage, as I never saved anything for me or kids as I never seen separately for me , I done everything for the family.or he never allowed me to do any work or business, even he always wished to spoil my business , so I think to live a metro city with my kids without giving any clue to him, but at present any money also sufficient to lead our life, I have to find source for their education and our 3 life too. I am doing some trading business, but I don't know whether I can truly trust on that work, this is comfortably i can do at present with taking care of my kids as they are very small. please advice whatever possible by you, I wish to live with my self esteem and self respect I wish to not loose it. may be this is a greedy wish at my present stage.


wish you could answer me early..
thanks,
jez

[Candice Kennedy]

There's nothing you can do about the fact that you have saved nothing. Whether you saved or not, it's obvious you need to leave. Worry about the money, career,education later, etc later. Go to where you are safe. If you go to your home first and get help and go somewhere else later, so be it. Just don't leave your kids where they can't be harmed. Stay with them at all times and all of you with someone else that can protect you. Worry about the other stuff later. If you are worried about "torture" then your sole priority is getting away from him. When you think and worry about all the other things you distract yourself and dig yourself and your children in a deeper, darker hole. If you don't take action, it will worsen. You have a responsibility to your children and their safety first and foremost, NOW. (do you realize it's been almost a year since you first signed up to this forum? Please don't let more precious time slip away)

[jez]

Dear Candice,
thank you for your message, I will start working on it as immediate effect, I treasured your opinion.

thanks,
jez

[Candice Kennedy]

Thank you, Jez. I sincerely wish you and your children a future filled with the happiness and blessings you deserve. Please let me know how you are doing.

[jez]

hi Candice,

Thank you for your wishes, the good people wishes and prayers will strengthen my heart and mind and help me to come out from all troubles .sure I will post my progress in my life,
thanks,
jez