love and music

[Kathy N]

Brian,
It sounds as if Mike is a bit controlling-- it seems that he has to oversee the majority of Aimee's interactions with friends and classmates. If he is isolating her from friends and family this is not a good sign. In order to maintain a healthy relationship, couples need to have some time apart, and to have respect for one another's individuality.

Perhaps when Aimee has some time on her hands and wants to go somewhere or do something that Mike isn't totally into, this could cause some friction. This is why I am sensing that it might not happen while they are both so heavily involved with school.

If she responds when you send her the link to your music, then you might want to send her an image of a tulip to thank her for listening to your music? It seems that she is a very nice, kind person. She most likely will respond, but don't worry if she doesn't do it immediately. She might have some things going on during spring break!

Take care!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

Yea mike does seems like he is controlling. Hopefully aimee will see that he isnt right for her soon. anyway, i sent her the link to my music and she didnt reply, nor do i think she listened to it. I also saw her today and im not 100% sure but i believe i saw her without mike even being around. i dont know if he is still in that class or what, but she was talking with her girl friends about some assignments and i didnt see him around at all. She seemed happier without him around then she usually does with him there. Can you see what is going on now?

Also, Can you see anything that will go on with my career in the future? Being a computer science major, I would really like to get a job with the government and work on security and defense systems.

thanks again

[Kathy N]

Brian,
I have a feeling that perhaps Mike wasn't in class or maybe not at school on the day you saw Aimee without him. From your observations it seems that she feels a sense of freedom when he is not hovering nearby. She may begin to realize this. At this point it does seem that they are still together tho--

I also sense that perhaps Aimee was very busy during Spring break. That is why I mentioned that you shouldn't be disappointed if she didn't respond immediately when you sent her the link to your music. She might have some catching up to do. Perhaps she went out-of-town during Spring break? I do feel that she will listen to it and respond, either on-line or in person when you see her sometime.

As for future employment options, try hard to obtain that summer internship. That could be a major foot-in-the-door of a corporation. You might need to relocate to get the position that you really want. Hopefully that will be an option once you finish with school.

Best wishes,

[brian424]

hey kathy,

saw aimee again today and she was by herself (i.e. without the boyfriend) and talking to a girl friend of hers while leaving her class. Two classes in one week and her boyfriend didnt seem to be there, or atleast i didnt see him. I wonder if he dropped the class. Though she did seem happier without him there. Hopefully she starts to realize she is happier without him and they break up.

[Kathy N]

Brian,
If Mike was going to drop the class would this be the logical time? The beginning of the last quarter? It seems as if he isn't around Aimee as much at school. If having a class together was one tie that was binding, then it is just one less thing that they have in common. Is there any way that you can find out? As you said you really don't have any mutual friends. Have you checked out her posts on the social networking site?

If you can catch her alone or with some girlfriends, try to say hi to her. You could wave to her if a conversation isn't an option. Most likely you have just minutes to get to class. I really think she would appreciate a friendly smile--

I honestly don't know what the status of their relationship is at this point, but it does seem as if they are drifting apart-- In any event, Aimee has been a friend of yours for some time and it certainly is all right to say hi to her. If you have the opportunity to do this, you most likely will have a better idea if she would like to have a conversation with you.

I really hope this works out for you--

Take care,

[brian424]

hey Kathy,

If he wasn't doing well in the class, to save his GPA, it would be a good idea to dropped the class. So I'm not sure. I will try to find out more and I checked out her site and she hasnt been on since i sent her that message with the link to my music. Everyone that has listened to my new song has told me that they can relate to it and that it is really really good. That it is simple but has a lot of emotion and meaning behind it. It was one of the songs i wrote when i was feeling down, but i didnt think everyone would pick up on that just from the music alone. lol It is a pretty cool feeling having that effect on people.

I'll try to keep an eye out for her boyfriend and her. If i get the chance i will say hi. I'm kind of glad that it seems that they are drifting apart, seeing i've been waiting for so long. lol I'm kind of excited and scared at the same time. I know if i got another chance i would go for it this time, I'm set on that. lol I just hope that all my waiting wont be for nothing. lol

thanks again kathy for all your help. You've helped me through a lot.

[Kathy N]

Brian,
It is so good to know that you are receiving favorable reviews for your music. You have put a lot into it. When Aimee logs back onto her site and catches up with her messages, she most likely will listen to it. When someone sends a message we usually read it-- that is human nature! She most likely has a lot going on right now-- she will catch up in time!

So what about Mike? Does he have a site? He could possibly have a private profile, but maybe a bit of detective work is in order? If you can find out what is going on with him there could be some clues-- My only sense for what is happening with him right now is that he is undergoing some type of transition.

Just keep thinking positive thoughts-- you and Aimee would be good for one another!

Best of luck with your detective work!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I saw aimee today and i know she saw me because we made eye contact when someone in my class came in the room and i looked in that direction and my eyes went to hers, but i forgot to do anything and by the time it hit me she was already down the hall. Though i didnt see mike again. Now i dont know if he was there but it seemed like she was just by herself. Im thinking he dropped the class. As far as the transition thing, could he be graduating? I looked around online and couldnt find a site for him though i found one with his name, im not sure it is him. Though i saw that my school does a news release after every semester for people on the dean's list and i noticed he was on one for 2006, which would lead me to believe that he could be graduating this semester, seeing it would have been 4 years by now. Can you pick up on anything that is going on?

Also, do you think that he would break up with her at the end of this semester because he wants a "fresh start" so to say? seeing he may be graduating. All in all i think it is a weird situation and im still finding it weird that she doesnt realize she isnt happy, but the reason you said makes sense because it is habit. I guess it just kind of sucks having to wait when i dont even know what is gonna happen. I dont know, I always seem to think more about her when I see her and I have been seeing her more now that my class got moved back to the original classroom. I am probably gonna see her Wednesday as well. hopefully i will remember to at least smile if she sees me.

[Kathy N]

Brian,
Perhaps when you and Aimee caught a glimpse of one another, it may have reminded Aimee that she wants to tell you something. I have a feeling that she might have listened to your music. Can you check her "site" to see if she has logged on recently? Also for Mike, is there enough information available to determine if this is the right person?

You definitely have very good intuitive powers! If Mike is indeed graduating at the end of the semester and has enough credits, he might very well have dropped the class. Since Aimee is always so conscious of her school work and has a desire to help her classmates, Mike might have also relied on her for help with this class.

If he is graduating, this will be a whole new phase of his life. If he will be seeking employment, with the economy this might not be an easy transition. He could possibly have to start by obtaining employment that is not in his chosen field. I don't see him breaking up with Aimee as part of a fresh start. I sense that they are drifting apart due to the lack of common interests. If he will be working and she is still in school, this will even broaden the gap. There is also the chance that he might meet someone that he will become interested in while he is making these transitions.

There will most likely be a list of names of graduating students posted around campus in the next few weeks. Maybe his name will be posted and we can confirm this?

In any event, try to say "hi" to Aimee. It is difficult when you only have a few seconds, but a friendly smile can mean a lot to someone. Let's see what she does with Mike not around!

Take care!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I checked aimee's site and she hasnt been on. I dont know if it is mike or not. it has his name and is the only one with that name on the site, Im just not sure, i have to wait till he changes his picture. I always felt like i could pick up stuff from people or when i would think of doing something, i would get like a feeling or flash of what would happen as a result and then i would do that and it would come true. I also can usually tell when someone is lying to me or I feel like i can pick up what kind of a person somebody is just by looking at them and i have been right so far. my mom tells me my dad is the same way. It is kind of a weird feeling but i see it as a gift. Tuesday i saw aimee twice, once when i was heading to class i just for some reason felt the need to look to my left and as i did i saw through the coffee shop windows at school aimee with a friend and mike was there. He seemed like he was just sitting there bored. then later as i was leaving i saw her and mike all the way down the hall and she was talking to him and he looked like he was trying to leave and didnt seem like he wanted to be there. Then today i saw her in class but didnt get to see her when she left. Kind of wondering if she notices. It seems like i have seen her a lot this week, everyday even, but still havent gotten the chances besides that once to actually say or do anything. It is like I'm attracting her to me some how. So do you pick up that aimee and mike dont have many common interests and that is causing them to drift apart? like to me they just look like friends and not a couple.

I'll try to keep an eye out for anything about graduating seniors around school. I was wonder a while ago when you said that you picked on on 7 and it fit somewhere into the equation. Do you pick up anything like that now? Cause if it is that they will be together for 7 more months wouldnt that put it to august for a possible break up?

I have found that i seem to keep my mind off the situation, by helping friends with technology and giving them info on the stuff I'm using and trying to get them to give it a try. I find it funny how much i really enjoy it. Talking about how one machine is better then another. lol I guess that is why i chose this field of study.

thanks again for the help and info kathy.