love and music

[Kathy N]

Brian,

It seems now with second semester well underway, that things might not change much for Aimee for the remainder of this school year. There might not be any change relationship-wise until the summer. So, maybe if you can just wait to see what happens during the summer? I know it seems like a long way off, but it will be here!

The more time you can spend with your music-playing friends will help to give you ideas and encouragement! You are already off to a good start!

Take care!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

what you said make sense. She is always super focused on her school work and when it is school time that is pretty much all she does, at least that is what she told me. Also, they have at least one class together this semester, i know this because it is across the hall from a class i have and their class ends when mine begins. i guess he wouldnt want to be in a awkward situation for the rest of the semester if he ended it now. lol i dont know i guess whats sucks is that she isnt talking to me, i think if she was talking to me i wouldnt feel like this. But of course it is because of him that she isnt talking to me. I was actually considering sending her a message online with a link to where i uploaded my music, but i dont even know if she would even care or listen to it. so im kind of iffy on that.

I think i could probably wait till the summer to see what happens, i mean heck i waited this long havent I? what's another semester. lol When during the summer do you think they may break up? I know if they do break up, i just need to find enough confidence to actually ask her out this time instead of sitting by and letting someone else pick her up again.

also, i was curious do you see any new girls coming into my life from now till the summer?

thanks again for all your help,

[Kathy N]

Brian,
Perhaps if you were to send an e-mail message with the link to your music upload to multiple recipients, this wouldn't appear obvious that you had singled Aimee out. Include both male and female friends. Aimee has an interest in music and she would most likely listen to it. If the opportunity presents itself, just say "hi" to both Amy and her boyfriend when you see them. This would help to "break the ice".

As for how long Aimee and her boyfriend will remain together, it really isn't possible to pinpoint a definite time because the future is not etched in stone. It seems that if the relationship is being held together by a single common thread. Once that thread is broken, unless there is more of a common ground in their relationship they will most likely drift apart. That is why the summertime appears to be when this might happen.

As for meeting new girls, since the school year is well underway it isn't likely that you will meet someone new. What I do see is the possibility of you getting to know some of the girls that you already know on a different and more personal level. There are at least two who would really like to go out with you!

Take care!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I'll do that with sending aimee the link. First i want to try and record something else before i send it to her. Hopefully she likes my music.

What is the common thread that is holding them together? is it basically that it is in a habit or that they are in a class together. also, is there any chance that they may break up before the summer? or is it pretty much the summer time when he may go looking for other girls.

I had a chance to go to my cousin's house (the singer) this weekend to play with him and his friends who are all in a band, but couldnt because of a record breaking snow storm. Other then that, I've been trying to work on my singing. It is a lot harder singing then it is to play guitar. lol

[Kathy N]

Brian,
It seems likely that Aimee and her boyfriend are kept together by habit, as well as having a class together. If something should go wrong between them at this point it would be difficult seeing one another in class. Also, there would be explanations needed to friends, etc. It is important to remember that the future is not set in stone and it is possible that they could break up sooner than in the summer. There is also a possiblity that it could take longer. It just seems that if either of them are no longer comfortable in this relationship, that they would end it at a time when they would not be forced to see one another on a daily basis.

If you get a chance to observe them together I think you will sense what is happening. This may be difficult, but you might do well to keep an eye out for them.

You should do well with your music this coming summer. You most likely will have the time and opportunity to get together with your cousin and his band. You might be comfortable with a collaberative effort as you are getting started. I sense that the summertime will be very good for you!

Best wishes,

[brian424]

hey kathy,

It is funny to me that i always seem to run into aimee when im not thinking about her, but when i want to run into her i never can. lol Well i ran into her again Monday, I was headed to my class which was downstairs and she was head upstairs, i just missed her and saw her walking upstairs. she looked like she was by herself, so i dont know if she saw me, but hopefully i run into her on the stairs again and hopefully my timing wont be so bad and i get a chance to say hello.

she still seemed sad, which i kind of found weird, being the day after valentine's day and all. Kind of seems like her boyfriend didnt do anything for her on V day. i dont know, she never seemed that sad when she was talking to me, she always seemed to have a smile on her face, but it seems when she distances herself from me she isnt as happy. i dont know just seems that way, i kind of wonder if she ever thinks of me or misses me.

Music has been going great, im working out another song and have an idea for another. it really feels great writing. It makes me so happy and i feel connected with the music that i write. It is a great feeling.

[Kathy N]

Brian,
Since Aimee was walking upstairs most likely she didn't see you on your way downstairs. You have sensed that she hasn't been happy for quite some time. It seems that she was deep in thought when you last saw her. We don't know what happened on Valentine's day-- Does her boyfriend normally walk her to all of her classes? Due to time constraints she possibly is alone some of the time?

As long as she remains involved with him she most likely isn't thinking about any other guys. Even if she isn't totally happy, it seems she is still focusing on trying to work things out. The best you can do at this point is to be friendly and kind to her. If you can work on projecting that kind of an image to her whenever you see her, she might possibly think about you when she needs a friend to talk to.

Your music is bound to be a major part of your summer! Hopefully you can be making plans for what you would like to do!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I'm not sure if her boyfriend walks her to every class, but when i saw her this time I think she was alone because there was a guy and girl in front of her, but i dont think the guy was her boyfriend. I see it as another chance to run into her and talk to her, or at least say hello. So hopefully i run into her again so i can say hello.

[Kathy N]

Brian,
It might be a good idea to smile and say hello to Aimee even if she is with her boyfriend. Actually say hello to the both of them. If you start to see her without him more often than not, it will be time to really focus in on the situation and see what is happening there!

At this point he might be busy with other classes, activities, etc. Right now I sense that each of them are focused on different areas. It does seem that they might be starting to drift apart.

Take care!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I'll keep an eye out for her. The fact that they might be drifting apart is a little uplifting because i was worried that something might have happened on valentine's day that would have prolonged them being together. when they break up, what is gonna happen with aimee? im just curious as to, if we get into a relationship, how is it gonna be?

thanks again for your help,