love and music

[Kathy N]

Brian,
With your music, if the lyrics aren't what you are comfortable with have you considered partnering up with someone who writes lyrics? I sense that you have the ideas for a good scenario for a song, maybe someone could help you put it together? You could do the music composition and get help with the lyrics. Most music is written as a result of collaberation, and this could help you get started.

Sometimes when a person is unhappy in a relationship they might not even realize it. They are working to keep the relationship going, often times unaware that they are not truly happy. It isn't until that relationship ends that they realize that it was not worth the effort. I do sense that Aimee likes you, and that she did appreciate you making the flowers for her. The best you can do right now is to be her friend. Smile and be pleasantly kind when you see her, which I am sure is what you always do! If her present relationship should end, remember to give her some time to heal. She might need a friend at that time.

In any event, please don't keep yourself waiting for this to happen. There are other girls out there who would be very happy to go out with you!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

if aimee's boyfriend isnt as serious about her as she is about him, why does he stay with her? i saw them both at school and they dont even look like they are together they look like they are just friends.

I talked with my cousin who is a singer and he gave me some ideas of how to write lyrics. also have been working on more songs about how i feel and they are coming out really good, just need the lyrics.

also, started talking to this girl erin, online, dont know if anything will come of it but she told me she thinks im cute and funny.

[Kathy N]

Brian,
There are some people who just don't do well being alone. This will cause someone to stay in a relationship until they are reasonably sure that they can move right on to another one. Often times people remain in a relationship out of habit. In any event it is best to just sit back and observe what is happening. In time this should be revealed to you (Aimee & Mike situation).

I seems as if you have a good connection to the music industry through your cousin. Perhaps he could put you in touch with someone who writes lyrics?

As for Erin, just give it a try with chatting on-line. If you should decide to meet, you might feel more comfortable meeting at a public place such as a restaurant. I sense that there are some girls who you already know that would be very interested in going out with you!

Take care!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

So basically he is just staying with her till something better comes along? wow that is messed up. i know if i was with her i would be doing all kinds of things, especially little things, to show her i cared and just to see her smile. More then anything i loved to see her smile and laugh. lol she has the most adorable laugh.

It is kind of funny because i always seem to run into aimee and her boyfriend. They are never holding hands or anything that would show that they are together. It kind of makes me think it won't last because like you said, it just looks like they are together as a habit and not truly in love. He just looks like he is controlling her the way he is always around her and walking her to her every class. Like he doesnt want her to talk to anyone but him.

i dont know only time will tell and i hope she see that he isnt right for her. im not certain but from what i know about her i think im more on her level then most of the guys she dates. It isnt like im feeling down or anything, it is just every time i see her she pops back into my head and gets on my mind.

my cousin himself actually writes lyrics himself. he gave some pointers on coming up with lyrics from the melody of the songs i write. which i have tried out a little and it seems to work. i just need more free time to do it more. also, i got a message from a guy that wanted to book me to play, but i couldnt do it because it would be on a day i have classes and it is back in my hometown. Even though i couldnt do it i was flattered to see that someone wanted me to.....which is pretty cool!

who are the girls that are interested in going out with me? Is one of them my friend shannon [3/22/1989]? lol she told me that she liked me recently, but i dont know how i feel about her.

[Kathy N]

Brian,

With Aimee's situation, I think you know that you are just going to have to wait to see what happens with her current relationship. Just smile and greet her whenever you are able to.

I have a very good feeling that perhaps as early as this coming summer you will have the opportunity to work on your music and make some good connections. I am sure you will make this a priority!

Obviously Shannon was brave enough to tell you that she likes you! This shows that you definitely have several choices. Only you can decide who you would like to go out with. You are just being cautious and you will know when the time is right.

Take Care!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

thanks for what you said. I find it funny with aimee. it seems whenever i get her off my mind, bam, there she is with her boyfriend when im walking to class. it is like im a magnet for her. lol though even this time she didnt look happy at all, as you said before, she looked like she was with him as a habit. i really saw it the other day. i dont know what it was, i guess it was something about her body language that just tells me she isnt happy. kind of wish her boyfriend wasnt there all the time, so i could at least say hi, but o well. i wonder if she notices all the times i keep running into her. lol

but you're right i need to just wait to see what happens in her relationship. i gotta live my life. which by the way, i got the time to record another one of my songs. no lyrics but people seems to like it.

As far as shannon, at times i felt like i wanted something more then at other i didnt know what i wanted. I'm kind of confused because i really care about aimee, but then i see other girls that want to be with me and most of them just dont make me feel the way aimee did. so i didnt know what to do. Shannon has confided in me on a lot of things and at times has even told me that she couldnt believe she told me half the stuff that she tells me, but i guess she trusts me to the point where she can tell me anything. At times she has asked me stuff and my answers would be stuff that she didnt think i would say, in a good way. I guess because she is so used to guys only wanting one thing and seeing im not just looking for one thing, makes her look at me differently.

i guess that is all the confusion that runs through my head. lol thank goodness for my music to take me away from it all. lol

[Kathy N]

Brian,
You will most likely continue to see Aimee at school. It is like a situation where people are in the same place at the same time each day. It should be all right to say hello to her when you see her. If she is with her boyfriend you could just say hello as if it were to both of them. You have good intuition, and you know that you will just need to wait to see what eventually happens with their relationship.

You are off to a really good start with recording your music. I really do think that by this coming summer you will be able to make some important connections in the industry.

Your intuition will tell you when it is time to start dating. If you are having doubts about getting involved, you are wise to wait. It is important for you to realize that you do have options though-- You are starting to realize who is interested in you!

Please take care and keep in touch!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

you are right. i will probably see aimee more, it is only the 4th week of the semester and i have run into her at least once a week. I know i will just have to wait to see what happens with their relationship, but it hurts sometimes seeing her with him and seeing that she doesnt look happy. i'm just curious, is there anyway you can tell what is going on in their relationship now? it just seems like he is the kind of person that acts like he is really interested then all of a sudden stops and is maybe confusing her. i dont know, i just get a bad vibe from him. i kind of feel like i can know what kind of person someone is just by looking at them, i seem to be pretty correct with all of my friends.

it is pretty fun recording music. it feels awesome knowing that i created that. now all i have to do is work on my singing! lol

[Kathy N]

Brian,
Do you happen to know approximately how long Aimee has been with her current boyfriend? I keep coming up with the number 7. I don't know if it means that they will be together a total of 7 months, or will they be together for another 7 months, or have they already been together for 7 months? I focused in on the 7 months a few weeks ago --

It seems as if the relationship is somewhat of a habit. Quite possibly he is taking things for granted. I sense that he has other things he is focusing on such as extra-curricular school activites, etc. and he is not making the relationship a number one priority. I do not feel that it will be a long-term relationship. In other words, they don't appear to be madly in love.

Your music will all come together-- you might enjoy collaberating with other musicians for a start!

Take care!

[brian424]

hey kathy,

thanks for what you said. it really cheered me up in a way. from what i remember i believe they got together around mid may to beginning of june, i remember talking to her, when she used to talk to me, lol, and the dates she was talking about them going on was as if they werent together yet but just going out and that was in the beginning of june. I kind of felt like the way she was trying to say they were together, it felt, as if she was trying to make me jealous, by randomly bringing it up, but i ignored it and didnt get angry or anything. So yeah it has been about 7 months or around that. At least that is what i know, they could have been dating for a month or two and then decided to get together.

i used to play guitar with one of my friends every thursday for a few semesters but he had to go to main campus for his major, but i have a bunch of other guitar playing friends that i should probably get with. my friend matt even offered to help me record some of my stuff, which he does a great job when he records his own music. so that would be great.