he's sick! and im freaking out! can i handle???

[Kathy N]

I sense that you already know that you love him and will stand by him. Most likely he is receiving medical treatment to help alleviate some of these symptoms? It is sad that he has to endure this physical pain.

Your love for one another will help you both thru this. You will become emotionally stronger as you support him thru trying times--

Many blessings to the both of you--

[Kathy N]

It is important that he follow the directions that accompany each medication. Also that each of his doctors are aware of all of the medications that have been prescribed for him. Also that he follow a special diet. There are regimens that he could follow that would improve his health. He could feel better and have a more enjoyable life.

So if he has not done so already, he might want to make an appointment with his health care provider to discuss all of these options. If you could accompany him on this appointment, you too could learn of ways to better help him.

Best wishes to both of you!

[kitana57]

Hi Tabitha,
First of all I would like to start this post off by saying you have definitely come to the right place:) The folks here are super nice and kind and very much welling to assist you in whatever way that they can. I am not much of a psychic myself either, but I do think we all have the potential to be over time if properly developed. The reason I am responding to your post is to hopefully pass along some wisdom and encouragement because it just sounded like you need it right about now. First start by taking a deep breath and exhaling really slowly, why do this you might ask? to calm yourself down a little bit. Next you have to find a new outlet in which to channel that negative energy that you have potentially stored up (your fiancee being ill might be causing you to freak out because you are carrying both the burden of caregiver and the emotional weight to shoulder of watching a loved one be ill which tends to make a person feel at times helpless especially when they are in pain as you described in your post) finding that outlet that will allow you to release this angst in a positive direction will not only benefit yourself, but the person that you love as well (storing up pent emotion will burn you out fast I ought to know trust me on that one lol). you can start by finding things that you both can do together that you both enjoy and that won't be to taxing to his health. Next make sure you don't neglect taking good care of yourself sometimes in the mist and magic of taking care of others we neglect taking care of ourselves (sometimes you must take a little me time break every now and again to regenerate some of that lost energy so you can continue to help others). Last, but certainly not least it is apparent by this post that you already have the answers to your questions:) because you know that he is ill and you have already stuck it out to this point and that alone to me says that you must love this person very very much and he apparently feels the same way, I say go for it and just take life one step at a time. Love does give us strength and it gives us great comfort and support and with the two of you facing this together and not alone will make anything thrown at you from this point on much easier to handle. Good luck to you both:)

P.S. It's ok to confide in someone just make sure it's someone you can trust and feel comfortable talking to or sharing sensitive information with.