changed friend

[rose]

i had a friend at the workplace for the last 4 years. but last month she got married (and i am not). she is much younger than me. i now find that she has become very bossy and dictatorial and tries to make me feel small in what ever i do . does anyone see the future of the friendship.

[Kathy N]

Rose,
When I focus on you and the situation, I sense that your newly married co-worker is trying to adjust to her new home life. I have a feeling that her new husband might be a bit controlling. It appears that she is transferring her frustrations to others when she reports to work.

For now, I would suggest that you distance yourself from her on a personal level. You need to continue to work with her on a professional level. Just be yourself, courteous and polite. You might want to refrain from discussing anything of a personal nature. In time I think she will come around. She will miss and need your friendship. This might take awhile though until she realizes what she has been doing.

You are a very caring person and I am certain that you have many friends.

[rose]

Thanks Kathy, that really was very helpfull of you. i was feeling somewhat the same about the frustration and you confirmed it. i will do as you suggest. Have a great day. thanks

[Kathy N]

Rose,

Well, since we both focused on the same answer--we know that is it! Because you are such a giving and caring person, I sense that you have many friends. This particular friend will come around again in time!

Take care!