Whether It’s With Relationships, Finances, Your Career, Or Personal Growth, Get Past Being Stuck By Applying These Powerful, Proven, And Simple Methods

Throughout the years, I have helped literally thousands of clients with relationship issues, financial challenges, and various other unfortunate circumstances. Whether it was the psychic-based guidance or training I provided, it has been rewarding to see many individuals create positive change in their lives, with my assistance.

Unfortunately, I often encounter people who know what needs to be done to improve their lives, but for various reasons, they just don’t seem to ever make that next step. This is one of the aspects of my work that saddens me the most. There are also the situations where an individual is doing “OK” in life, but I know they could achieve so much more.

Maybe it’s the lonely soul who just won’t do what it takes to end the 5 year streak of being single, maybe it’s the person who keeps making excuses for one failed relationship after another, or maybe it’s the father or mother who struggles financially, but just won’t take that extra step to gain financial achievement. All of these situations have one thing in common – there is action that needs to occur, but for whatever reason, that action is never taken.

Pay close attention to the point that I am about to share with you. Read over it at least three times to make sure it sinks in. The point: If you have challenges in your life that don’t seem to be getting better, if you feel stuck and don’t know what to do or you don’t have the strength to do what needs to be done, there are concrete steps you can take to make it through whatever issues you are facing. Being stuck is optional, regardless of the challenges you face – it isn’t necessary. The climb towards what you want is likely much easier than you ever thought.

So Where Do You Start?

First of all, let’s make one thing clear. At first glance, many people assume that I am just a professional psychic and/or metaphysics teacher. But let me tell you, the staff here at LifeLeap Institute, including myself, have spent years and years researching the most cutting-edge personal growth approaches – strategies that are already working for people who are successful in their relationships, wealth, career, and personal health.

The information we share in our educational guides and services is not just our personal philosophy. Our various training and research includes the works of Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Napoleon Hill, Landmark Forum, Stephen Covey, just to name a few.

Taking this into account, one principle which all of the great teachers agree to is: You have to create a clear goal to work towards. You have to know where you want to go whether it’s in relationships, career, happiness, physical health, or even metaphysical development.

Not having a clear goal could be compared to just drifting in a boat in the middle of the ocean. Because you aren’t moving in any direction, it’s unlikely you will ever arrive where you want to be, if anywhere at all. Having solid goals allows you to put your life force into a concrete direction and “adjust the rudder” along the way as this becomes necessary.

Write Down Your Goals

This is a basic step, but one that is often overlooked. When you write down your goals, it helps you to process them, to see how realistic they are, and to organize them better. More importantly, when you write down your goals, it gives them more power – it sets them more into place. Of course, you have to first decide what your goals are, what you would like to accomplish. But don’t take too much time coming up with your goals. Remember, by not deciding, you are still making a decision.

Writing down your goals can be seen as filling out your request form to the universal delivery system. It impresses the goals into the collective consciousness allowing the universe, God, or whomever your “higher power” may be, to start lining up the resources for you to accomplish your objectives.

Maybe this is why in a recent Harvard University study, a group of people who wrote down their goals accomplished twice as many of their objectives than a group that did not write down their goals.

And remember, instead of focusing on what you want to get away from, focus instead on where you are going. When you are fixated on what you don’t want to create, it’s like running down the street backwards – it’s just a matter of time before you trip over something and the problem catches up with you. Just deciding that you want to “get away” from something is not enough. You have to turn yourself around and put your focus on where you are going.

Make your goals specific. You can’t just write down a general idea of what you want to accomplish and let your notes get sucked up into the low priority file on your desk. As you write them down, include all the details involved. Have a plan on how you are going to accomplish them. If you don’t know what you want, then make a goal of discovering your goal.

The Power Of Self Examination

Having a clear goal of what you want to achieve is the first step towards getting unstuck – it’s the first step towards creating the forward motion that allows you to gain what you deserve in your life. Having a clear goal allows you to “stand on top of the mountain” as if you have already achieved the goal. From this perspective, you can look back, in your mind’s eye, and see what steps need to be taken to get to the arrival point. Then you go back (to the present) and start taking action, one step at a time.

But through this process, you have to develop the skill of self examination. Start monitoring yourself more. It’s a matter of being really honest with yourself, your circumstances, and your potential.

Lack of self-examination is one of the biggest mistakes people make.

Self-dishonesty is one of the greatest self-defeating things you can do. Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions throughout the day instead of just going through life blindly. Examine how you really feel about what you think you want to accomplish.

For example, maybe you really want to be in a healthy, exclusive, balanced, loving relationship. But if you have been settling for a mediocre situation for five years with a person that will most likely never meet you half way, what does this say about your belief of what you can accomplish? Also, is keeping one foot into that unhealthy relationship really the best thing to do towards creating the type of relationship you really want?

These types of details are important to examine. They help you get a clearer direction as to what your next step should be. If necessary, start changing the way you perceive your goals in a more positive and productive manner.

Ask Yourself The Right Questions – A Powerful Strategy For Creating Change

Asking yourself questions is a simple yet powerful method to control your mental and emotional focus. When I talk about focus, I am referring to where your attention is at any given moment. When you are controlling your attention, you are focusing your life force where it needs to be to accomplish your goals.

For example, when you are faced with a challenge that keeps leaving you stuck, if you ask yourself the right questions, this can immediately shift you into a better mental/emotional state. This can create options that might have before, been unavailable to you. Asking yourself the right questions can also be a step towards achieving greater self honesty – which is critical if you want to make significant changes in your life.

I encounter so many people in my work who have great potential to achieve what they want, but they defeat themselves before they ever get started. Many people have a list of alibis as to why they can’t have that ideal relationship, why they can’t improve an existing relationship, why they can’t create financial success, why they can’t become physically fit, etc. Asking the right questions can also be a critical step towards breaking through this self-defeating mentality.

Of course, whatever your intention, you have to ask yourself the right questions at the right time. Here are some different examples of questions you can start with, depending on what you are encountering.

To induce personal honesty and awareness: Every time this has happened, what was the common denominator in all of these situations – was it me? What am I getting out of this? What’s really blocking me from accomplishing what I set out to do? Why do I keep putting myself through this?

To encourage correct action: Is what I’m doing right now going to get me what I desire? If I’m serious about what I want to accomplish, what do I need to do to achieve what I desire? Have the steps I’ve taken so far really been effective at getting what I desire – if not, what do I need to change?

To induce motivation with when you are stuck, even after years of settling for the same situation: How long have I been putting up with this? How much longer am I willing to settle for this? What is my next step going to have to be to get this going in a better direction? Is this ever really going to get better by itself, or am I going to have to take the step myself? At the rate I’m going, how long is it going to take to accomplish this?

To break through self defeat: Others just like me have accomplished what I want for myself, why can’t I? Just because I haven’t been able to achieve what I want yet, does this really mean I can never do it? In the past, when was there a time I thought I couldn’t do something, but once I tried, I discovered I could?

To break through personal fear: When I am sitting on my deathbed, am I going to regret not doing this, even if I was fearful? Am I going to let my fear of what might happen prevent me from taking risks and ruin the chances of ever getting what I want? These questions are just a start. Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this approach – there is great power in what we are talking about here. Also, don’t be shy about using your own creativity when coming up with new questions.

When you ask yourself these types of questions, you will likely already know the answer to the questions. But knowing the answers isn’t the point here. Asking yourself the right questions is a powerful process that has a specific purpose. It helps to control the focus of your life energy, reveals self defeating beliefs that need to be examined and changed, and discovers solutions for your issues – solutions that might not have otherwise been discovered.

Although questions like these are a great tool for personal development, be careful about being over-analytical or over-critical of yourself. This is called “Analysis Paralysis” in many personal growth organizations. What would you get out of that anyway?

The “Secret Obstacle” Of Personal Achievement

While many people do get results with the methods I’ve outlined so far, some individuals, even after sticking with a goal for months, see lack of results in their own lives. Their hopes are once again destroyed and they are left feeling even more frustration, hopelessness, and skepticism. So many clients throughout the years have shared their experiences and disappointment with me regarding these failed attempts.

If you have made conscious efforts for a while to get through a challenge, and you still don’t seem to be getting the results that you want, it may be time to explore what is blocking you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually on an unconscious level. Western psychology refers to this part of us as the subconscious. This aspect of us is an accumulation of our beliefs, the effects of deep emotional experiences (even from infancy), the impressions that others have made in our lives, among other influences.

Many forefathers of psychology have estimated that this subconscious influences 90% of our lives, without us even knowing it.

The point that you want to understand is that you are playing a large role in what you are achieving in every area of your life, whether it’s relationships, career, finances, or personal growth. Much of this is occurring on a deeper level that you may not be aware of. You can take more control over what you create in your life by participating on the conscious level (deciding on solid goals, self examination, taking steps on the physical level, etc), but you can also become aware of and influence what is occurring on the deeper, hidden levels within you.

If you are serious about making changes in your life, but you keep getting stuck even after taking consistent steps, then it’s critical for you to realize this unconscious process and take more control over it. This could potentially be the most defining realization in your life, so don’t let this opportunity pass you by.

The good news is that you can become aware of and take control of your subconscious. There are techniques and more detailed training approaches that are effective, some of which I will cover in a few moments.

When Is The Best Time To Take Action?

When you are facing a serious challenge in your life and you need to take action, you may never “feel like” any time is the right time to take the next step. This is often true especially if there is risk involved, if you are concerned about being disappointed even more, or you don’t feel as if you have the strength to face your issues and take action.

But… the best time to take the next step is now. Every moment that you aren’t moving forward, every moment that you aren’t living the life you desire and deserve, each of these moments is a moment that you will never have again. Many people spend a good part of their lives “looking forward to” that time when things will be better, even though that time often never arrives.

The Good News – You Don’t Have To Do It Alone

There are many great resources to make your uphill climb easier and more effective. If you don’t seem to be able to accomplish what you desire on your own, then it’s probably time to take the advice of internationally bestselling author, Napoleon Hill – in his book Think and Grow Rich, Mr. Hill emphasizes successful people don’t try to do everything on their own, they seek out the advice of experts.

Depending on what challenges you face, you may need to seek the expert advice of a relationship coach, a financial advisor, and attorney, or maybe a personal fitness trainer. If you can do it on your own, great! If not, don’t give up – take advantage of the resources available to you.

When it comes to the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of life, we have some powerful resources available to you. If you are confused, if you don’t know what steps to take, or you need clarity into an issue, see the details of my Psychic Counseling Service. Through this service, I have helped thousands of people throughout the years gain the understanding, guidance, and direction they deserve when facing challenges in life. Whether it’s with relationships, finances, career, or personal growth, I’m able to use psychic-based insights to get to the core of what is occurring and what steps need to be taken to get the results you desire.

If you have a fairly good sense of what actions you need to take, but you keep getting stuck no matter what you try to do, please see the details of our Advanced Perception Course. Through a series of written lessons and personal interactions with me, we give you all the tools that you need to get complete control over your emotions, understand yourself on a deeper unconscious level, spiritually manifest what you want in your life, achieve the inner strength necessary to take actions, and enhance your own psychic/healing ability.

Whether you take steps on your own, through another expert, or through one of our services, I encourage you to take action now. If you are struggling through an ongoing painful challenge, you keep having the same issues over and over, or if you are “OK” but want to achieve more, start taking steps today to gets your life moving forward. It’s unlikely that anyone will do these things for you, and especially if you are suffering, it’s not likely to get better on its own.

If I’ve been successful at helping you to see your life challenges with a new perspective, if I’ve stirred you up to the point where you are ready to take action, if you see the power in some of the methods I’ve outlined, I encourage you to get started right away. Don’t wait until tomorrow or next week when these perspectives aren’t as fresh in your mind. I may be the last person to ever have this conversation with you – seize the opportunity while it’s here!

Until the next time…

Dale Sellers, President
LifeLeap Institute
(888) 589-7769
(305) 433-4433
1840 Coral Way, Suite 4-401
Miami, Florida, USA, 33145

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  By Lisa Gregos | March 19, 2009 | 7:09 pm

  Wow! Thanks for such a powerful article. I am thinking now how I can apply these pointers into my life. This helps me see how I am sabotaging myself and what I need to do now. I’m going to read this again in a few days.

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  By sergio furer | March 28, 2009 | 12:23 pm

  Very powerful stuff. good work dale!

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  By Dale Sellers | March 28, 2009 | 4:08 pm

  Lisa and Sergio – I’m glad you found the article helpful!

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  By Betty | April 6, 2009 | 8:25 am

  WITH ALL THE ISSUES WE ARE NOW FACE WITH ESPECIALLY WITH THE ECONOMY, IT IS SO EASY TO GET STUCK, FEEL PARALYZED AND HOPELESS. THIS ARTICLE HELPED ME TO TAKE CONTROL BACK OF MY LIFE WITH CLEAR, DEFINITE GOALS.
  THANKS FOR ALL THAT YOU DO.

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